new size

today is 10-10-10 and I fit into size 16 jeans today!! YAHOO! size 14 here I come.

toddler testing

As you have read I have a 31/2 yr old she is a spirited and sweet little girl. What you  need to know about her is she is just like her mom...STUBBORN! I mean that is the best way I am who I am because I don't listen to nos. Now as the mom of a girl who don't take no, I am finding it very challenging. She has a sense of style that I don't not understand. She wants to wear what she wants and no matter my great advice she will not bend. Needless to say this has lead to may "discussions". I am sad to say most of these "discussions" have been me yelling and her not responding.

I was raised in a yelling home. When my dad yelled you moved or else. I thought thats what you did you got your kids to fear you and then if you yelled they jumped, Now my husband's family were not yellers in fact my husband will avoid conflict at all costs. And he had a talk one night when I feeling like my daughter was just listening and heading in the "wrong direction" (yes I am always over exagratting things). He said something that has changed my view of life and my daughter. He said "When you yell, she shuts down."

So crazy and simple stop yelling and she can communiate her needs, It has worked I have not yelled in weeks and she seems to be more open by the day.

It is hard to have this old dogs learn new tricks but my daughter is worth it.