When I was in 7th grade (incidentally the same age as my only daughter is now) I was not a skinny kid. I was the size that is now my goal weight, funny enough. I was in my basement with my "good" friend, when she turned to me and said "If I were as fat as you I would kill myself". Not sure how I reacted at the time but I do know that phrase has never left my daily mindset.
I have spent my life always feeling (and sometimes being) the largest person in the room. Always wanting to be unseen and hoping if I was funny enough people would only remember that that not how fat I am.
I have struggled with my weight my whole life, in fact after that comment I went on a no eating at school diet - I would go all day till dinner only eating an apple. Boy, I wish I could talk to that teen and tell her how much she was hurting her future self.
Now why am I sharing this with you. No I do not have a weight loss program to share with you. I am sad to say I have let that comment become an reason to not ask for more out of life.
I have been content not being the outgoing girl, I know I am. I have never persuade a speaking career (even though I love speaking in front of crowds) because fat women do not speak. No one will listen to someone who does not have it all together. I have been afraid of so much because of how I see myself and never take time to see how others see me.
What is holding you back from being the best you? What dream is a "pipe dream" because of your fears.
The other week I was at a women's retreat. A huge group of women and you know what I saw for the first time in my life...not a bunch of skinny perfect women (yes, there were a few) but women of all shapes and sizes. Women who all were hoping to connect with someone. Women with flaws.
If we are going to wait to have it all together before we try moving towards our dreams we will spend all of our life never moving forward.
I for one am going to start to take risks, me and my imperfect self conquering the world one blog at a time
Good Job!
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